So how’s married life?

7 Jan

Planning a wedding can be one of the most stressful and wonderful times in life. This season is filled with months and months of lists, decisions, and anticipation. The day finally comes and all the plans come together, the church is decorated beautifully, and all your family and friends have gathered to witness the start of a beautiful journey. And just like that, it’s over and you’re finally married!!



So now what? Now life begins; which is equally wonderful and difficult. After you get married there are two main questions people ask. The first one being, “when do you plan on having kids?” To which I would like to respond in the words of Napoleon Dynamite, “Whenever we feel like it, gosh!!” But the second question…my favorite question…the one that is sometimes difficult to answer is; “So how is married life?”

We’re seven months in. Seven months going on forever and ever. So where to even begin? Usually I respond, “married life is great!” But the truth is married life is so much more than “great.” When my husband and I got married, I had no idea that it would be like this. As a little girl I always dreamed about “happily ever after.” You picture riding off into the sunset side-by-side with the love of your life. But married life is much different from that.

Married life is every single day; its bills. It is a never-ending pile of laundry. It’s cleaning together. It’s taking turns cooking dinner and washing dishes. Married life is balancing work and home and figuring out how to spend time with both sides of the family. It is sharing a bathroom and taking out the trash. It is adjusting to each other’s habits and quirks. Being married is communicating with each other. It is staying up late together watching reruns of The Big Bang Theory.


It is being there to hug your spouse as soon as they get home from work. It is asking how their day was and really listening to the answer. It is playing each other in Words with Friends while in the same room. It is realizing that you would rather stay home together and do nothing than go out on a Friday night. It is sitting in bed eating cookies and watching a movie. It is laughing hysterically and tickle fights. It is a sleepover with your best friend every night of the week. It is also disagreements. It is crying on your husband’s shoulder when you’ve had a terrible day. It is taking care of one another when you’re sick. It is praying together. It is going to church together. It is always having a friend and someone who will be on your side.

Marriage is budgeting and deciding together how to spend “our” money. It is planning vacations together. It is weekend getaways and dreaming of traveling the world. It is thinking of names for your future children, but enjoying just being married. It is being there to celebrate every accomplishment, no matter how big or small. It is encouraging each other in the disappointments of life. It is working through arguments and disagreements and never going to bed mad at each other. It is when your husband hugs you tight even though you’ve just been arguing. Marriage isn’t always easy.

It is love. It is being in love. It is thinking “how could I love this person any more than I already do?!” then realizing you love them more each day. Marriage is sharing a special bond that you will never have with anyone else. It is date nights and leaving notes for each other to find. It is making a point to TRY and to fight for each other every day.

Though I have only been married seven months I have learned that marriage isn’t easy, that it can be hard. But it is also the most incredible experience. It is something that was created and ordained by the Creator, something that He blesses. It is the most beautiful journey you’ll ever go on. Seven months going on forever and I cannot wait!

God is SO good!

“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” Proverbs 18:22

“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” Proverbs 31:10-12

“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” Ephesians 5:28

“And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.” Colossians 3:14


Hannah D.


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